How to Talk with Your Romantic Partner about Menopause

How to Talk with Your Romantic Partner about Menopause

MenoLabs News | Tue, Nov 19, 2019

Let’s be real – it is tough to go through menopause without the support of your loved one. This means talking to your romantic partner about your symptoms is a big step on the path to feeling better. Menopause is not a transition you have to go through alone. Quite the opposite, it is something you can and should discuss with your husband and your family. But how exactly should you talk with your romantic partner about menopause?

How do you talk with your romantic partner about menopause?
How do you talk with your romantic partner about menopause?

Perimenopause / Menopause

Are you in perimenopause / menopause?

What Is the Best Time to Have “the Talk”?

It is no wonder that the most honest and fruitful conversations between you and your partner happen when things are going well between the two of you. Do not try to start the talk if you are angry at each other. It is also not a good idea if you have mood swings at the time. Or when you just woke up or are winding down for bed. These are certainly not the best times for such an important conversation.

Because this conversation is so important, avoid having it when one or both of you are distracted by something else. Think activities like watching a soccer game, playing with kids, or taking care of chores. Make sure to find the right time to talk with your partner so that you are both in a good mood and can devote your full attention to each other. It might sound like a strange thing for a couple to do, but you can even decide on the time and place to talk in advance so that you both treat the conversation seriously. 

How to Approach the Conversation with Your Romantic Partner

It is best to talk to your partner as soon as possible. This way, your symptoms of vaginal dryness, or brain fog will not leave them perplexed and worried about your health. You might feel shy or uncomfortable as you open up about these things. If this is the case, always keep in mind that menopause is a very natural stage in the life of every woman. So nothing is embarrassing about your body and your symptoms. Here are some tips that could help guide you through the talk with your partner. 

Be Honest

Honesty is the best policy, very much so when it comes to talking about menopause. Your partner might not know much about this stage in your life. So it is up to you to describe what you are going through with honesty and in detail. Explain to your partner that you have new symptoms because of menopause, and you are working on adjusting to them. If you are suffering from mood swings, tiredness, or irritability, tell them that it is not their fault. Your behavior changes are a natural event. 

Always be honest about how you feel
Always be honest about how you feel

Giving your romantic partner more info about how you feel and what you are going through in menopause will be very helpful for your relationship. It was found that the better a man’s knowledge about menopause, the higher is the marital satisfaction of his partner (1). Being open and honest also goes a long way for your mutual trust. Do not forget to thank your partner for being supportive of this important stage in your life. If you tackle menopause together, as a team, it will be much easier to manage for both of you. 

Describe Your Symptoms

Make it clear what symptoms of menopause you have and how severe they are. It is essential to make your partner feel loved and appreciated and have their support in return. For many women, menopause brings a decrease in sex drive because of hormone changes. Low libido can also happen because of tiredness, lack of sleep, mental clarity issues, or vaginal discomfort, which are all common in menopausal women. 

Men can feel that their partner has become less interested in being intimate with them. Without proper explanation, they would attribute this change to their lack of sexual appeal for their partner. And if this happens, there will be misunderstandings, unspoken hurt feelings, and other issues between you. Helping your husband come to terms with your menopausal transition can boost your marital satisfaction (2). And as you grow older, your sexual relationship does not have to suffer – with the right words; it would only become more profound and more emotional than before. 

After You Have Talked with Your Romantic Partner about Menopause

If your marriage suffers from a lack of support and understanding, it would only worsen the severity of your menopause symptoms (3). Now you have spoken with your partner about menopause. So you should already start feeling better simply because you know he supports you wholeheartedly. Because of this talk, your romantic partner also knows more about menopause. As a result, he can be more aware of your symptoms or even the symptoms of other members of your family. 

You husband will be more attentive to your needs
You husband will be more attentive to your needs

Apart from that, your partner would become more sensitive to your needs. He might even feel sympathetic, trying to understand how a certain symptom feels for you and how hard it is to deal with it. When you feel under the weather, your partner will not blame himself anymore. Instead, he would look for ways to cheer you up. And when you are tired and have no energy to do anything, he would understand and make sure you get the rest that you need.

Tackle Your Menopause Symptoms

You have taken the first step to feeling better – you have gotten the support of your partner. Now it is time to tackle the symptoms of menopause themselves. MenoLabs has created a line of probiotic supplements that will help you find relief from hot flashes, mood swings, vaginal dryness, and low sex drive. Probiotics have been used for aiding in the treatment of many symptoms and conditions. They can also be effective for relieving the symptoms women have in menopause. Let the friendly bacteria help you feel happier and live better. 


(1) Nooshin Yoshany et al. “The Effect of Husbands’ Education Regarding Menopausal Health on Marital Satisfaction of Their Wives.”

(2) Mahdieh Rouhbakhsh et al. “The effect of couples education on marital satisfaction in menopausal women.”

(3) Katherine Fielder and Sharon Kurpius. “Marriage, stress and menopause: Midlife challenges and joys.”

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